Everyone thinks you have it all together. And you do have it together. Because you hold it together. That's the problem.

You are the one everyone relies on. The one who notices what is about to fall before it does. The one who follows up on the thing nobody else remembered. The one who ensures all of the moving pieces are going in the right direction. The one whose name keeps showing up on the agenda to fix problems you did not create.

You built a life that works, because you made sure it would. And now the systems you built do not run without you. Marriage. Family. Career. Business. Community. You have become the glue for it all, and you've probably forgotten who you were before you stepped into this role. But you would like to remember.

On one hand, you've built a good life and you don't want to burn it all down. But on the other hand you know you can't keep going like this.

There is a third option, and the reason you have not been able to find it is that it is not visible from inside the role. The role has a name. So does what it has cost you.